Becoming a mother

There is so much to be said about becoming a mum.

It’s a job.
It’s a 24/7 job.
It’s tiring.
It’s overwhelming.
It’s hard.
It’s confusing.
It’s frightening.
It’s full on.
It’s non stop.
It’s messy.
And the list goes on.

But above all it’s the best job and it’s so rewarding.

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The first thing I noticed when becoming a mummy two years ago was how everyone becomes an expert. It’s the most judgemental job in the world.

Every one is quick to tell you what you’re doing wrong, what you should be doing instead or what’s the best way to do something. Very rarely do they complement you on how well you’re doing keeping your shit together as a first time mum.  On how even though you feel like crap, probably look like crap and have no idea what to do with this little human that you’re actually doing a great job and everything is going to be OK.

That is the type of feedback we need as mothers. Especially as first time mothers. We need to support eachother not criticise. We need positive vibes not negative comments. We need to know we’re doing great even if we’re covered in vomit & poo and haven’t changed out of our pjs at 3pm.

Think about this next time you meet a mummy.

Like my mother taught me…

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

Sending you love,

MBS
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