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ME TIME!
We all know that the realm of motherhood often takes over every aspect of your life, but it is SO important to still take care of YOU.
Taking time for yourself everyday, every week or every once in a while gives you the break you need to recharge and continue being the best parent you can be.
It may be as simple as 5 minutes every day or 5 hours out and about a month.
So, what does your “me time” look like?
Sending you love,
MBS
xx
I, many times, since becoming a mum have preached the “self love” argument.
I truely believe it is SO important and one of the fundamental components of raising healthy children. Ultimately this is why I preach it. For my kids. I never want them to feel unloved. I never want them to hate parts of themselves. I never want them to look in the mirror and hate what they see.
And so, I preach self love and acceptance on a daily basis. (Monkey see, monkey do.)
However for ME practicing self love is easier said than done. I say it, post it, write it but deep down I don’t ultimately believe all aspects of it with myself.
Everytime I jump in the shower I look in the mirror and hate what I see.
I look at the body that literally gave life to the two kids laughing inside, or sweetly tucked into their beds and my mind starts…
YUCK.
That’s disgusting.
How fat are you?!!
Is that another roll on your stomach?
What’s that mark?
Your SO fat even your undies leave marks on you.
Your thighs are still touching!
When did your boobs get so saggy?
Look how old your face looks!
Are those wrinkles?
The light really makes your grey hair show.
And it continues….
Almost everyday this occurs.
Most days my common sense will kick in and snap me out of it.
“STOP. You gave birth and created two children from this body. If it wasn’t for what you see here they wouldn’t be alive today and your life would not be the same. You’re not 18 anymore, you’re almost 30!” Alot has changed in life since you were 18 so obviously this body has followed suit!
But it really got me thinking…. Am I alone in this battle? Am I the only one being a hypocrite about the whole “self love” movement?
On the grand scale of things I have come to accept my body and its changes but I don’t love it. And to be honest I don’t know if I ever will.
I’m not comparing it to anyone elses body. I’m not wishing I had a Kim K ass or Pamela Andersons boobs. I don’t jump on every new fitness craze and hope for a thinner waist and wider booty. I just look in the mirror and wish for my old body back. MY OWN pre mum bod. The one that wasn’t as flabby, loose or scarred.
I don’t care what others think. It’s a battle with myself. Not with other people’s opinions. You can tell me how good I look after 2 kids a thousand times a day and I won’t believe you. You can also tell me how fat I am and I won’t listen.
My battle is not with YOUR opinion of me. It’s with my OWN opinion of myself. No-one can change this but me. It’s part of MY self love journey. One I still need to work on. I may not LOVE what I see, but I LOVE what it gave me, so I have perspective. 
The term “self love” gets thrown around so often and it’s actual definition encompasses so much more than we know.
One thing I have realised is that self love means something different for each person. We all have different ways in which we show ourselves love and appreciation. The more we experience and mature in life, the more self love we develop.
“Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us.” – Deborah Khoshaba
Practicing self love can be challenging and it’s different for everyone. Some days it may be meditation, healthy eating and yoga, whereas for others it looks like binge watching TV shows in their pjs.
For some it may be saying NO and cutting ties, whereas for others it means saying YES to something new.
Whatever it looks like, whatever it is, you must make it a priority for YOU.
How do you practice “self love”?
Sending you love,
MBS
xx
