Tag: new mum

This too shall pass

Hey mama,

Hang in there ‘cos..

This too shall pass.

You won’t always be suffering from sickness, heartburn, sciatica, peeing every minute or pregnancy insomnia. There will come a day when..

This too shall pass.

All those vomit stained tops, eye bags, hourly feeds and poo explosions won’t be around forever..

This too shall pass.

Those dreaded dragged out bed times, sleepless nights, midnight wake ups, bed wetting, kicks in the head, feet in the ribs, early mornings will also one day fade..

This too shall pass.

The patting, rocking, swaying, pram pushing, car rides, dummy, comforter, white noise tricks wont always be needed..

This too shall pass.

The terrible twos, threenager, fournado, tantrums, negotiations, hair pulling, biting, and all out crazy kid behaviour will vanish..

This too shall pass.

The strong need for botomless pits of coffee, tea, wine, “anything to get me through this day” will diminish..

This too shall pass.

You won’t always be googling late at night, scrolling through endless articles or monitoring leaps, thunderstorms and other crazy regressions as..

This too shall pass.

Every stage is temporary.

Every confusing moment will one day become clear.

Every sleepless night will one day no longer be.

Every moment of doubt,

Every tear,

Every tantrum,

Every moment of defeat,

Is temporary.

And YES in those moments it’s hard, SO hard, to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

But it’s there.

Shining ever so dimly waiting for you.

So next time you feel frustrated, overwhelmed, confused or simply over it….

Take a deep breath and remember…

Sending you love,

MBS

xx

Let’s talk….. BIRTH

Let’s talk…birth stories.

Experience is the best teacher and with the abundance of contradictory facts out there, I find it settling to learn and listen to real life experiences. (Keeping in mind everyone is different)

Help a mum to be out, by sharing your stories in the comments below. Here’s a few questions to get you started:

My labour was…….. min/hours/days

I had a birth plan……

I USED my birth plan…..

I took some sort of pain relief offered…..

During labour I swore I’d never have another child (but I did)……

If I could tell you ONE thing about birth it would be……
Leave your replies below 👇 
Sending you love,

MBS 

xx

Becoming a mother

There is so much to be said about becoming a mum.

It’s a job.
It’s a 24/7 job.
It’s tiring.
It’s overwhelming.
It’s hard.
It’s confusing.
It’s frightening.
It’s full on.
It’s non stop.
It’s messy.
And the list goes on.

But above all it’s the best job and it’s so rewarding.

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The first thing I noticed when becoming a mummy two years ago was how everyone becomes an expert. It’s the most judgemental job in the world.

Every one is quick to tell you what you’re doing wrong, what you should be doing instead or what’s the best way to do something. Very rarely do they complement you on how well you’re doing keeping your shit together as a first time mum.  On how even though you feel like crap, probably look like crap and have no idea what to do with this little human that you’re actually doing a great job and everything is going to be OK.

That is the type of feedback we need as mothers. Especially as first time mothers. We need to support eachother not criticise. We need positive vibes not negative comments. We need to know we’re doing great even if we’re covered in vomit & poo and haven’t changed out of our pjs at 3pm.

Think about this next time you meet a mummy.

Like my mother taught me…

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

Sending you love,

MBS
xx

One Word

If you could sum up Motherhood in one word, what would it be?

Take some time to think about it.

Factor in ALL your experiences and learning along the way. Now summarise in one word.

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Motherhood for me is:

“SURPRISING”
From the very first moment when 2 faint lines appeared on numerous tests I was surprised.

As my stomach grew and my body and mind morphed into ways I could never imagine I was surprised.

When the contractions hit and my waters leaked I was surprised. Surprised that the pain wasn’t as bad as I imagined (at first) and that my waters could leak (no gushing like Charlotte in SATC?) 17 hours later the surprise hit again when I couldn’t comprehend how I could possibly still be alive yet be in such excruciating pain.

Surprise! It’s a BOY.

17 months later, surprised I “forgot” the pain..

Surprise! It’s a GIRL.

Each and every day the surprise continues.

I’m surprised at the amount of love and pain I feel through you.

I’m surprised with how you make me feel like the luckiest yet loneliest person at the same time.

I’m surprised with how I can go from “poster mum” to “crazy psycho mum” within minutes.

I’m surprised with the patience I find during your tantrums and at times with the tears I cry instead.

I’m surprised by your abilities that continue to flourish and develop each day right before my eyes.

I’m surprised with how proud and honoured I feel when I hear myself coming out through you.

I’m surprised with how easy and then how difficult some days are to get through but how quickly time can pass.

I’m surprised with the amount of guilt I feel about whether I’m doing enough, have done enough or are making the right choices for you.

I’m surprised with the fear, yet joy I feel for all you will achieve in your future.

Everything you do, all we experience, the big and small things surprise me each and every day.

I never knew how much my life would change until I had you, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I’m surprised that after all the tantrums, screaming, tears and sleep deprivation, all I need is a smile, kiss or cuddle to perfectly end my day.

So, what was your one word?

How would you sum up Motherhood?

Sending you love,

MBS

xx